We are one week into 2017–have you kept on top of your new year’s resolutions?
Ah, it’s that time of year again: that wonderful time when we get to start fresh, set unrealistic goals, and punish ourselves and feel ashamed when we don’t achieve them. Or at least that’s what usually happens, right?
If you’re reading this or any other LDC post, you are likely someone who enjoys Latin dancing and you may have set a few dance resolutions for yourself this year. That’s great if it means you are further pursuing something you enjoy, but it becomes a problem when you take on too many goals at once or if those goals aren’t truly designed with YOU in mind. These are some of the fatal flaws I’ve come to notice about dance resolutions:
- More, more, MORE!
Unfortunately, we often focus on quantity rather than quality when stating our new year’s resolutions. For example: I will take three classes every week! I will choreograph five new routines! I will social dance for eight hours every weekend! I will move on to the “advanced class” before June! Unfortunately, taking on too much at once or moving on to a new level before you are ready will only increase your frustration. Instead of striving to do more, narrow your focus and decide what it is you’d like to improve. For example, I really want to learn new bachata footwork patterns this year and be able to execute them with perfect timing on the dance floor. So, I will take classes and workshops that will help me to achieve this goal. I won’t set a deadline for myself; rather, I will continue to work on this skill until I feel I’ve mastered it which…may be never–but at least I’ll be better than I was! And that leads me to my second point…
- Constant comparisons
We want to be as good as or better than ________ (insert name of dancer you LOVE here) when really, we should focus on self-improvement and being better than we were last year. Stop saying, “I want to dance like Alien Ramirez” (note: I chose her name because I actually used to say that all the time!). Instead, say “I want to dance like ME, but better!” Striving to improve your dancing is wonderful, whether it be through taking classes or workshops or just simply practicing more often, but you are YOU and the goal should be to be content with what you have to offer. Sometimes, I hear people say, “Oh, I haven’t been dancing very long, so I’m not as good as _________.” Stop doing that! Some people have been dancing at the same level for ten years without taking any classes and they are content (which is OK, by the way). Some have been dancing for six months, have worked their butts off by learning as much as possible, and have progressed incredibly quickly. Don’t worry about how long you’ve been dancing–just focus on where you want to go. Another odd comparison I have noticed over the years is that some folks lie about how long they have been dancing. Perhaps they are trying to impress people with their skill level by saying they are brand new to Latin dance when they’ve actually been dancing for a while. I have heard this many times: “Oh, I’ve only been dancing for two years”….yeah, but that’s what you said last year! This is an interesting phenomenon. There is no shame in being honest with yourself and others. It’s not a contest.
- Attending all of the events
This point is linked to the previous two. We want more and we compare ourselves to everyone and therefore, we want to go to all of the events. It makes sense: if I attend every social and every workshop and every congress in my area, I will be a master of salsa by the end of the year…right? Well, no…and you won’t have much left in your savings either. In 2017, allow yourself to do a little bit less. Instead of attending everything, do your research. Find out which artists are teaching and/or performing at these events and pick and choose the ones you don’t want to miss. If there are six socials per week where you live and you want to go to all of them, great! If you’re exhausted and you can’t keep up, go to the ones that make you happiest, or to the ones that are closest to where you live. You do not have to do everything. I repeat: you do NOT have to do everything. This has been a tough lesson for me to learn over the years, as I tend to feel guilty if I miss an event. This ties into point number two, about those constant comparisons. “If I don’t go to such-and-such event, then I won’t learn the workshops that will make me as good of a dancer as so-and-so.” Or, the dreaded “If I don’t go to such-and-such event, so-and-so will be mad at me.” It’s time to let go of this mindset, so set a goal for yourself to be a little more picky and a little less guilty about the things you miss.
If you haven’t made any dance resolutions yet for 2017, here are some suggestions. Pick one or two and really work towards them. Good luck, and happy new year!
-Choose ONE festival/congress you’d really like to go to this year. Save up and GO!
-Make an effort to dance with one new person at every social you attend.
-Pick ONE class you really want to take and sign up. Convince a friend to take the class with you.
-Get to know some more people in your dance community. Share a drink or a meal together every now and then before or after a social.
-Stop doing something you don’t like. Maybe you thought you should perform but you actually hate it…don’t do it anymore. It’s that simple.
-Learn a new skill–whether it be a pattern in a dance you know or some beginner skills in a dance with which you are unfamiliar. Sometimes, a challenge is a great way to reignite the spark for dance.
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